Caring for a loved one is one of the most important and rewarding things you can do, but it can also be challenging and sometimes overwhelming. When you’re focused on supporting someone else, it’s easy to forget about your own needs, yet your health and wellbeing are just as important.
This page brings together practical tips, local and national organisations, and trusted resources designed to support unpaid carers in North and North East Lincolnshire. Whether you need advice on getting enough rest, eating well, finding time to relax, staying active, or looking after your mental health, you’ll find information here to help.
We’ve also included details about respite services, peer support groups, and ways to access professional guidance – so you don’t have to manage everything on your own. From local leisure centres offering discounted memberships for carers, to national charities and organisations like Mind, The NHS, and Carers UK, there are many services available to give you a break, support your wellbeing, and remind you that you’re not alone.
By protecting your own health, you’ll be better able to continue in your caring role and still find space for the things that matter to you.
*Providing these links does not mean that The Carers’ Support Service endorses the organisation. The Carers’ Support Service accepts no liability for any losses or damages caused by using these services. Please do you own research, be aware that other organisations are available and find the right provider/support for your needs
Prioritise Sleep
Keep a routine – Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time each day, even on weekends. This helps train your body’s natural sleep rhythm.
Nap smartly – If your nights are often disturbed, short naps (15–30 minutes) in the day can help recharge without leaving you groggy.
Create a wind-down routine – Reading, gentle stretches, or listening to calming music before bed signals your body it’s time to rest.
Limit screens – Reduce phone, TV, or tablet use for at least an hour before bed, as the blue light can interfere with sleep.
Make your space restful – Keep the bedroom cool, dark, and quiet where possible. An eye mask or earplugs may help.
Avoid caffeine late in the day – Tea, coffee, and energy drinks can disrupt sleep if taken after mid-afternoon.
Share responsibilities if you can – If someone else can help with night-time care occasionally, use that time to catch up on deeper rest.
Don’t lie awake worrying – If you can’t sleep after 20 minutes, get up and do something calming until you feel tired again.
Look after your wellbeing in the day – Exercise, fresh air, and staying hydrated all promote better sleep.
Reach out for help if needed – If poor sleep is affecting your health, talk to your GP. Sometimes support services can step in to give you a proper rest.
Eat Nourishing Meals
When you’re caring for someone else, it’s easy to skip meals or grab whatever’s quickest. But fuelling yourself well will give you more energy, boost your mood, and help you stay healthy. Here are some simple ways to make eating well easier:
Keep healthy snacks handy – Nuts, fruit, oatcakes, yoghurt, or vegetable sticks with hummus can keep you going between meals.
Batch cook when you can – Make extra portions of soups, stews, or pasta sauces and freeze them for days when time is short.
Plan for speed – Choose meals that can be made in 15–30 minutes with minimal prep.
Balance your plate – Aim for half your plate filled with vegetables or salad, a quarter with lean protein (chicken, beans, fish), and a quarter with wholegrains (brown rice, wholemeal pasta, potatoes).
Stay hydrated – Sometimes tiredness or hunger is actually dehydration. Keep a refillable water bottle close by.
Be kind to yourself – A takeaway now and then is fine. It’s about balance, not perfection.
British Heart Foundation Quick Meal Ideas – Simple, heart-healthy recipes ready in under 30 minutes.
British Heart Foundation – Healthy Eating Recipe Finder
Heart UK – Health Dinner Recipes – Tasty and nutritious meals designed to support heath health
Stay Hydrated
When you’re busy caring for someone else, it’s easy to forget to drink enough yourself. But staying hydrated is vital – even mild dehydration can make you feel tired, low in mood, or less able to concentrate. Keeping your fluid levels topped up helps your body work properly and gives you more energy to cope with daily challenges.
Top Tips for Hydration:
Keep water close – Carry a refillable bottle wherever you go; you’re more likely to sip often if it’s within reach.
Set gentle reminders – Use a phone alarm or an app to remind you to drink regularly.
Mix it up – If plain water feels boring, try herbal teas, sugar-free squash, or adding fruit slices for flavour.
Snack smart – Many fruits and vegetables (like cucumber, melon, and oranges) have a high water content.
Drink with meals – Make it a habit to have a glass of water alongside breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Watch for signs – Headaches, dry mouth, or dark urine can be signals you’re not drinking enough.
Limit caffeine and alcohol – They can dehydrate you, so balance them with extra water.
British Dietetic Association – Nutritionally grounded advice and emphasises recognising dehydration signs like headaches, poor concentration, UTIs, or kidney stones
Age UK – Tailored advice for older adults and carers, including tips like sipping from a water bottle throughout the day, pairing drinks with meals, and hydrating food suggestions (e.g., ice lollies, custard)
Care UK – A downloadable booklet packed with hydration facts, signs of dehydration (e.g., confusion, falls), and creative ideas like using favourite cups, serving hydrating snacks, fruit-infused waters, and mocktail recipes
Move Your Body
Boost your energy – Just 10 minutes of walking or stretching can help fight fatigue and give you a lift.
Support your mental health – Exercise releases feel-good chemicals (endorphins) that ease stress, anxiety, and low mood.
Protect your body – Staying active helps maintain strength and flexibility, reducing the risk of aches and injuries from lifting or assisting the person you care for.
Improve sleep – Regular movement helps you fall asleep more easily and enjoy deeper rest.
Make it social – Join a local walking group, class, or even an online workout for motivation and connection.
Break it up – Activity doesn’t need to be all at once – three 10-minute bursts can be as beneficial as one 30-minute session.
Try “snack exercise” – Use moments in the day: march on the spot while the kettle boils, stretch while watching TV, or take the stairs when possible.
Get outdoors – A short walk in nature can boost mood, vitamin D, and give you a break from caring routines.
Mix it up – Keep it fun with dancing, cycling, swimming, yoga, or even gardening – whatever you enjoy counts.
Look after your heart – Regular activity lowers the risk of heart disease, diabetes, and other long-term conditions, keeping you well for the future.
North Lincolnshire Council – Fit for Free – Concessions for those over 66 years and those with learning difficulties.
Lincs Inspire Memberships – provides a range of memberships with no contract period, allowing members to cancel at any time. These memberships include access to four gyms, public swimming at three pools, fitness classes across multiple sites, virtual classes, and more. Additionally, members receive discounts on leisure retail and drinks at Grimsby Auditorium.
Carers Stepping Out See Doncaster – (Covers Normanby Park and Elsham Hall walks)
NHS Online Free Exercise sessions
DareBee – Downloadable free workout guides – ranging from beginner using only body weight to more experienced seasoned trainer.
Check Your Health
You can’t pour from an empty cup – Caring is demanding. Keeping on top of your health helps you stay well enough to look after others.
Spot problems early – Regular check-ups and screenings (like blood pressure, cholesterol, or cancer checks) can catch issues before they become serious.
Protect your energy – Managing conditions like diabetes, asthma, or thyroid problems properly will help you avoid unnecessary fatigue.
Prevent burnout – Talking to your GP about stress, sleep, or low mood can help you get support before it becomes overwhelming.
Stay strong physically – Routine checks ensure your muscles, bones, and joints are cared for, especially if your caring role involves lifting or moving.
Vaccinations matter – Flu and COVID-19 vaccines (and others when advised) reduce your risk of illness that could disrupt your caring role.
Don’t ignore warning signs – Headaches, chest pain, or persistent tiredness should be checked – your health is just as important as the person you care for.
Your GP can connect you to support – From mental health services to social care referrals, your doctor can help link you with wider resources.
Peace of mind – Keeping up with appointments reassures you that you’re doing what you can to stay healthy.
You matter too – Caring is about someone else, but you deserve good health, support, and care in your own right.
Free NHS Health Check for those 40 – 74 years old
Healthwatch -How to get the most from your GP appointment
The Importance of Keeping Up-to-Date with Your Vaccinations: What You Need to Know
Get a Carer Assessment
A Carer’s Assessment is a free assessment offered by your local council under the Care Act 2014. It’s for anyone who provides unpaid care for a family member, friend, or neighbour who could not manage without their support.
The assessment looks at how caring affects your life – your physical and mental health, your ability to work or study, your relationships, and whether you’re able to take breaks. It’s not about judging the care you give, but about understanding what you need to carry on caring in a safe and healthy way.
You’ll usually have a conversation (in person, online, or by phone) with a social worker or care assessor, where you can talk about:
The support you provide day-to-day.
How caring impacts your own wellbeing (sleep, stress, finances, health).
What would help make your life easier (respite, training, equipment, support groups).
Your goals outside of caring (work, education, hobbies).
It’s your legal right – Every carer is entitled to a Carer’s Assessment, regardless of income or the amount of care you provide.
Access support – You may be offered practical help such as respite breaks, equipment, training, or even financial support.
Protect your health – The assessment ensures your own wellbeing is considered, not just the person you care for.
Plan for the future – It helps identify what would happen if you became unwell or unable to care.
Get referrals – The assessor can connect you to local services, charities, and peer support networks.
Help with finances – It can open the door to information about Carer’s Allowance, direct payments, or other benefits.
Peace of mind – Knowing there’s formal recognition of your role can reduce stress and make you feel less alone.
North Lincolnshire Council – Carer’s Assessment
If you are unable to complete the online request for an initial care assessment, please contact them on aapcustomersupport@northlincs.gov.uk or 01724 297000
For more information Focus Independent Adult Social Work (Single Point of Access SPA)
If you would like to discuss a Carer’s Assessment, contact Focus on 01472 256 256 (Option 2).
Take Breaks Without Guilt
Caring is demanding, and you deserve moments to rest. Therefore, taking breaks is essential, not selfish.
Even short pauses help. For example, reading a few pages or a book, getting an early night, breathing deeply, or enjoying a hot drink. Each pause matters.
Carers often feel guilty for stepping back. However, prioritising yourself allows you to sustain your caring role longer.
For guidance and reassurance, explore Carers UK – Taking a Break.
You can also request a Carers’ Assessment to find out what respite care options are available locally which may include Direct Payments.
Finally, remember you are not alone. If you need company, we also have friendly befrienders available for a coffee and chat, or to go for a walk. More information can be found here, or by calling 01652 650585 or 01472 242277.
Direct payments in both North and North East Lincolnshire give carers more choice and control. They allow you to decide how support is arranged, rather than the local authority choosing a care provider for you.
In practice, this means you receive the money directly and can decide how best to use it. For example, you might employ a care worker, hire a small team, or continue using an agency of your choice.
With direct payments, you have greater flexibility to arrange support that truly fits your needs and circumstances.
Without direct payments:
The council arranges for a care agency to send a care worker for two hours each week. You have little choice over who comes or when they visit.
With direct payments:
You receive the money directly. Instead of fixed agency hours, you decide how to use it. For example:
– You employ a trusted neighbour to help for an hour every day.
– Or, you hire a personal assistant who can provide support in the evenings when you most need it.
– However, you still choose an agency, but you can pick which one and when the visits happen.
This way, direct payments give you flexibility, choice, and control over the support that works best for you.
To be able to access Direct Payments you would need to complete a Carers’ Assessment with either The Carer Team in N Lincs, or Focus in NE Lincs.
In North Lincolnshire, respite options include short-term care home stays, community support, or arranging services using direct payments. You can find out more about getting help for paying for care in North Lincolnshire here:
More information about Direct Payments can be found here for North Lincolnshire:
To arrange a Carers’ Needs Assessment in North Lincolnshire contact the Carers Team Here: North Lincolnshire Council – Carers’ Assessment
If you are unable to complete the online request for an initial care assessment, please contact them on aapcustomersupport@northlincs.gov.uk or 01724 297000
In North East Lincolnshire, Focus Adult Social Work provides assessments and respite services, including direct payments for flexible support.
To arrange a Carers’ Needs Assessment or discuss Direct Payments in North East Lincolnshire, call 01472 256256 (option 2).
More information about Direct Payments in North East Lincolnshire can be found here:
Practice Relaxation
Caring can feel relentless, and stress often builds up without you noticing. Taking even a few quiet minutes each day can help calm your mind, ease tension, and restore your energy. Relaxation is not a luxury; it is an essential part of caring for yourself.
Breathe deeply – Try slow, steady breaths to lower stress and bring focus back to the present.
Listen to calming sounds – Soft music, nature sounds, or guided meditations can help you unwind.
Stretch gently – Simple yoga poses or light stretches release tension held in your body.
Try mindfulness – Focus on the moment by noticing what you see, hear, and feel around you.
Create a ritual – A warm bath, a cup of tea, or lighting a candle can signal your brain to relax.
Please see these useful links for more information:
How to Improve your mental health – Mind
How to meditate – a beginners guide from the NHS
Guided Mediation session (be aware of costs involved if you sign up)
The Carers Support Service offers bookable sessions such as meditation, sound bath, art clubs, and holistic therapies. Look at our what’s on calendar for more information, have a read of the Newest edition of The Caring Times, or call the office to book a place.
01652 650585 (North Lincs)
01472 242277 (North East Lincs)
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Caring for someone you love can bring pride and purpose, but it can also stir up stress, frustration, guilt, or sadness. These feelings are normal and do not mean you are failing. By recognising and accepting your emotions, you can begin to manage them in healthier ways and protect your wellbeing.
Top Tips for Understanding Your Feelings
Name your emotions – Saying “I feel tired” or “I feel anxious” helps you process what’s going on.
Write it down – Journaling, even for five minutes, can ease pressure and give perspective.
Share with someone you trust – Talking with a friend, family member, or professional helps lighten the load.
Accept without judgment – Remind yourself it’s okay to feel frustrated or upset. Feelings do not define your worth.
Seek support if needed – If emotions feel overwhelming, reaching out for help is a sign of strength.
Supporting yourself whilst Caring for someone else – Mind
Celebrate Wins
Caring often means pushing through each day without stopping to recognise your own achievements. But celebrating wins, no matter how small, matters. Acknowledging your successes boosts motivation, uplifts your mood, and strengthens resilience during the caring journey.
Break down big tasks into small wins
Rather than seeing “manage medicines” as one big task, split it into steps like sorting, packing, and recording. Each completed step is a genuine win.
Celebrate out loud
Say it boldly: “I handled that call,” or “I got through today.” Speaking your accomplishments helps your brain register them as real successes.
Treat yourself to small, joyful rewards
A favourite snack, a cup of tea, or a short walk can turn a small success into a moment of joy, and reinforce positive habits.
Keep a “Ta-Da!” list
Jot down any small achievement each day—finishing a chore, getting dressed, or just making it through the morning. Revisit it on tough days to remind yourself how much you do.
Without these moments, stress builds, and motivation drains. Celebrating creates a positive feedback loop of growth and wellbeing.
Click on the links below to find out more
Celebrating the small wins – Balance App
Take action to be happier and kinder together – Action for Happiness
Seek Joy Daily
Caring can feel all-consuming, yet moments of joy are essential for balance and resilience. Therefore, it is important to make space for small pleasures, even on the busiest days. Furthermore, these moments can restore energy, lift mood, and remind carers that life holds more than responsibilities.
Engage with something uplifting, such as music, reading, or a favourite television programme, to create a brief escape.
Incorporate hobbies or creative activities into the week, even for a few minutes, to spark enjoyment and self-expression.
Catch up with a cheerful friend and find anything but the normal day-to-day to talk about
Dance in your kitchen like no-one is watching!
Read more here:
The power of the little things- how to find joy in the everyday – Psychology Today
Reach out to The Carers’ Support Service
Caring for someone is deeply meaningful yet emotionally demanding. You might feel isolated, anxious, or just overwhelmed. That is why the Carers Support Service exists. We offer practical, emotional, and peer support for carers like you.
We understand what you are going through because we have listened to carers for decades. Whenever you need someone to talk with, whether it is for a quick chat or ongoing emotional support, contact us. Our Carer Coaches are here for you.
We also offer free befriending, counselling and training sessions.
Reaching out is not a sign of weakness. It is a way of investing in your wellbeing. When you feel supported, you are stronger and better equipped for your caring role.
Contact us now:
Brigg Office: 01652 650 585
info@carerssupportcentre.com
Grimsby Office: 01472 242 277
info.nel@carerssupportcentre.com
Stay Connected
Maintaining social connections supports emotional wellbeing and reduces feelings of isolation. Therefore, staying connected is important.
Connections can provide advice, encouragement, and a sense of belonging, which helps carers manage stress effectively.
Tips to Stay Connected:
Schedule regular phone or video calls with friends or family to maintain relationships. Even if it is you always making the call. – Do it and stay in touch!
Join local or online carer groups to share experiences and gain mutual support. Find out what we have on offer on our What’s On Calendar, our newest editions of the Caring Times, or here on our Facebook pages Facebook NEL, Facebook NL
Use messaging apps or social media to stay in touch when visits are difficult. If you need support with computers or technology book a free 1-to-1 session with our digital tutor (Thursdays in North Lincolnshire, Fridays in North East Lincolnshire)
Participate in community activities or clubs, even virtually, to maintain social engagement.
To Find out what groups and activities are on in your area, click on the links below:
Find Peer Support
Peer support offers understanding that comes from shared experience. Therefore, carers often feel truly heard and understood.
Unlike other support, peers have direct insight into daily challenges, providing practical advice that professionals may not.
Furthermore, peer networks reduce isolation by creating connections with people who face similar responsibilities.
Carers can exchange coping strategies, celebrate successes, and learn from others’ experiences, enhancing wellbeing over time.
Finally, peer support can complement professional advice, ensuring emotional, practical, and social needs are addressed simultaneously.
To find out what is coming up, see our newest edition of The Caring Times, see our facebook pages, (NL Facebook) (NEL Facebook) or our “What’s on Guide”
Ask for Help
Caring can be overwhelming, yet seeking support is essential. Therefore, asking for help ensures needs are met.
Helpful Tips:
More information can be found by following these links:
Be Heard – Self Advocacy guide for Carers – Carers UK
Involve Professionals
Professional support can make caring more sustainable. Therefore, involving professionals early ensures your needs are recognised and addressed.
Helpful Tips:
In North Lincolnshire a Carers’ Needs Assessment can be arranged by visiting the website of the local council here: North Lincolnshire Council – Carer’s Assessment If you are unable to complete the online request for an initial care assessment, please contact them on aapcustomersupport@northlincs.gov.uk or 01724 297000
For North East Lincolnshire, you would need to contact Focus Independent Adult Social Services via telephone on 01472 256256 (option 2)
North Lincolnshire: 01652 650585
info@carerssupportcentre.com
North East Lincolnshire: 01472 242277
info.nel@carerssupportcentre.com
Use Respite Care
Respite care provides temporary relief from caring responsibilities. Therefore, it supports carers’ wellbeing and prevents burnout.
Using respite allows time to rest, attend appointments, or enjoy activities that maintain physical and mental health.
Furthermore, respite can improve care quality, as carers return refreshed and better able to support their loved ones.
Request a Carer’s Assessment through your local council to explore eligibility and available support.
If you are unable to complete the online request for an initial care assessment, please contact them on aapcustomersupport@northlincs.gov.uk or 01724 297000
more information can be found here: Focus Independent Adult Social Work (Single Point of Access SPA)
More information on respite care can be found here: Taking a Break – Carers UK
Plan Ahead
Planning ahead helps manage caregiving responsibilities and reduces stress. Therefore, it is essential for carers.
Keeping a diary or planner can track appointments, medications, and daily tasks. This ensures nothing is overlooked.
Use a daily planner to record tasks and appointments. This helps maintain organisation.
Set reminders for medications and follow-up appointments. This ensures timely care.
Review and update plans regularly. This accommodates any changes in care needs.
Include emergency contacts and important information. This provides quick access when needed.
Reflect on daily experiences. This aids in identifying patterns and areas for improvement.
How to be organised as a Carer – Carents
Set Boundaries
Setting boundaries is important for your wellbeing. Therefore, carers should set limits to protect time and energy.
Know Your Limits: Notice when you feel tired, stressed, or stretched too thin.
Speak Clearly: Tell others what you can and cannot do in simple words.
Be Consistent: Stick to your limits so people understand and respect them. No constantly changing them!
Look After Yourself: Take breaks, rest, or do things you enjoy. You deserve time too.
Get Support: Talk to professionals or other carers for advice and guidance.
Stops Burnout: Protects your energy so you can care better.
Better Care: Gives you focus and helps you care more effectively.
Healthier Relationships: Builds respect and understanding with family or friends.
Respect Yourself: Shows you matter and deserve your own time.
Balance Life: Helps you manage caring alongside other parts of your life.
Stay Informed
Learning about the condition you’re caring for can reduce uncertainty and can help you plan for the future.
NHS – Conditions A-Z
Provides comprehensive information on a wide range of health conditions, including symptoms, treatments, and support options.
Carers UK – Information by Condition
Offers detailed information on various conditions, including how they affect the person you care for and how to manage care effectively.
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